How to choose your first vibrator: a beginner's guide

Buying your first vibrator is exciting… and a little overwhelming. There are hundreds of shapes, colours and features, and it's completely normal not to know where to start. The good news: there's no single "right" toy, only the one that suits you. In this guide we explain, without jargon or pressure, what to look for so you get it right first time.

Before you choose: ask yourself three questions

Take a minute to think about what you're after. It will save you doubts and help you narrow things down.

• External, internal or both? Many people find external stimulation is the best place to begin.
• Solo or with a partner? Some models are designed to be shared.
• How important is discretion? Size, noise and how easy it is to store matter more than you'd think.

The most common types of vibrator

Bullets and mini vibrators

Small, simple and easy to tuck away in any drawer. They're the most recommended option for beginners: used externally, with few buttons and usually very quiet. Have a look at the bullet vibrators and mini vibrators.

Rabbit vibrators

They combine an internal shaft with an external arm for dual stimulation. They're a classic for good reason, though as they're larger, they're best once you know you enjoy internal stimulation. Discover the rabbit vibrators.

G-spot vibrators

A gently curved tip makes it easy to reach the front wall. If you'd like to explore internal sensations, they're a great choice, especially in moderate sizes. See the G-spot vibrators.

Wand massagers

A broad head, deep vibrations and a comfortable handle. They started out as massagers and are now among the most loved toys. They're a bit bigger and more powerful, so they're perfect if you want intensity. Find them in wand vibrators.

App or remote controlled

Controlled from your phone or a small remote, they're ideal for couples' play or long-distance fun. If you like a bit of tech, check out the app-controlled vibrators and the remote-control ones.

What about suction toys?

They don't vibrate as such: they stimulate with air-pressure waves, without direct contact. Many people discover them after their first vibrator and never look back. You'll find them in air-pulse suction toys.

Materials: silicone rules

This is the most important point, and the one most often overlooked. Always choose body-safe materials:

• Medical-grade silicone: soft, non-porous, odourless and easy to clean. The ideal choice.
• ABS (hard plastic): safe and hygienic, common in bullets and remotes.
• Avoid porous materials or phthalates, and be wary of toys with a strong plastic smell.

Power, patterns and noise

More power isn't always better. To start with, look for a toy with several intensity levels so you can build up gradually, plus a few rhythm patterns to discover what you enjoy. As for noise, small silicone models tend to be the quietest; if you share a flat or have thin walls, check that the description mentions it.

Battery and charging

USB-rechargeable toys are more convenient and sustainable than battery-powered ones. Also check whether it's waterproof: being able to use it in the shower and rinse it under the tap is a real plus.

Lube: your best friend

A little lubricant makes everything more comfortable and enjoyable. With silicone toys, always use a water-based lube, as silicone-based ones can damage the surface over time. There's something for everyone in lubricants.

Cleaning and care

• Wash it before first use and after every use with warm water and mild soap.
• Dry it well with a clean towel before putting it away.
• Store it in its pouch or a fabric bag, away from other toys.
• Charge it now and then even if you're not using it, to keep the battery healthy.

Our advice for the first time

Start with something small, made of silicone and with several speeds. Take your time, with no expectations or rush: exploring is part of the pleasure. And if you want more, there's always a second toy. Browse the full range in vibrators.

Discreet shipping, no surprises

Every order ships in a plain box with no logos or references to its contents. Delivery takes 24-48 h in mainland Spain, 1-3 business days in Portugal and 3-7 days in the rest of the European Union, and shipping is free on orders over €69 to mainland Spain and Portugal. All the details are in shipping & delivery.